Tuesday, September 13, 2011

So?

Finished The Entitlement Trap yesterday.  In my opinion it is a MUST buy, MUST read.  It is a fabulous combination of their past books and also pulls from some areas of their website (http://www.valuesparenting.com/), which I get so many great ideas (repenting bench, consequence game, role-playing dialogue, setting goals with small children, monthly values, animal examples...) from.

Some highlights from Chapter One:

"We seem to be working for our kids' approval, rather than their working for ours.  And as our lives get busier and busier, with both parents working, and as the disconnect grows between what we say our priorities are and where we actually spend our thought and energy, we parents give our kids things instead of time, spoiling them as we add fuel to the entitlement flame.  We give them too much and demand too little of them."

"Two prime elements of JOY are appreciation and work."

"It's about what our kids need more than what they want or what we would love to give them."

"Can our homes become a stronger culture than the peer, the media, the societal or the school cultures that flood over them?"

2 comments:

Heidi said...

Loved the book. I read it in almost a day. The book I REALLY - REALLY like is; Raising Unselfish Children in a Self-Absorbed World
by Jill Rigby

It's an older book, I keep it by my bed stand!

Johanna V. said...

Looking forward to reading it.